Happy New Year, how do you do? - delectations

Post 329928 by Twang deleted for the following reason: Heya - thank you - but better to put this over in Metatalk instead -- LobsterMitten

How can I make my life truly interesting, unique? - existence lifestyle future

Post 329915 by 2ears1mouth deleted for the following reason: Heya, I appreciate that there's an element of "I'm not sure what I'm trying to ask" to this, but you do need to rework this into a more focused, specific and answerable question for it to work for Ask MetaFilter. -- cortex

Help me argue against the colander - fsm pastafarianism

Post 329854 by zadcat deleted for the following reason: AskMe is really not set up for philosophical debates, sorry. -- restless_nomad

Etiquette around guests and voice activated tech assistants? - Alexa BigBrother creepytechnology

Post 329738 by Sublimity deleted for the following reason: Sorry, but Ask Metafilter isn't really for general discussion/debate on a topic, but for trying to help with a specific problem -- taz

How can I deal with this feeling of loneliness and depression? - deprssion friends parents

Post 329671 by Tiffy119 deleted for the following reason: Hey, I'm sorry that you're having a rough time. This is out of the scope of what AskMe can help with. We've got some resources collected that may be able to help you better. -- restless_nomad

I'm going to have a grandson - family love boys

Post 329648 by mumimor deleted for the following reason: Heya! Congrats and I totally get it you're kinda verklempt with the everything, but there isn't really a workable question here so far. If you end up sorting out a more specific framing of what you're looking for guidance and advice on or what concerns you have, it'd be fine to regroup and give this another shot then. -- cortex

Homesick for Hamburgers - travel things different

Post 329548 by Crystal Fox deleted for the following reason: This is chatfilter, sorry. -- restless_nomad

Talk to me about suicide - suicideideation philosophy mentalhealth

Post 329452 by Grandysaur deleted for the following reason: This is not a question we can reasonably entertain - feel free to drop us a line and we can talk about why in more detail. -- restless_nomad

If you dont mind sleeping with your boss to get a promotion, is it bad? - family husband cheating

Post 329422 by direct1 deleted for the following reason: This is a bit of a mess as posted; maybe revisit this as a more focused question on whatever your core concern is re: your husband instead of this swerve from a long run-up about a hypothetical question the post leads with. -- cortex

Help me develop a sense of self-image - blindness selfimage

Post 329321 by Anne Shirley deleted for the following reason: Hey there, I'm sorry but yeah, this is a bit wide open for a question. If you'd like help possibly finding the site you remember or something similar, or if you'd like to get some sort of specific advice related to how you'd like to project yourself that has to do with wardrobe, hair style, etc, that could be a more targeted ask. Please contact us if you'd like to discuss! -- taz

Endoscopy in cats - what to expect afterwards - vet

Post 329363 by scrute deleted for the following reason: poster's request -- cortex

Help me kill someone (for fiction) - crime novel characters

Post 329111 by Bella Donna deleted for the following reason: Sorry, elaborate assassination fantasies end up being a potential problem for the site; touch base with us for possible re-framing? -- LobsterMitten

$20,000 to start your own business- what would you do?(currently in NYC) - internet entrepreneur startup

Post 329079 by MD_yeahright deleted for the following reason: Sorry, this is so broad that it's chatfilter. If you have more specific things in mind, that might help narrow it down to something more answerable. -- LobsterMitten

Why are office computers so terrible? - slow bad

Post 328927 by inner_frustration deleted for the following reason: Sorry, this is a rant disguised as a question. -- restless_nomad

Where are the southern manners?

Post 328900 by LLF246 deleted for the following reason: This will probably go better with minor reframing; as it is, it looks like picking a fight, which won't go over well. -- LobsterMitten

Help me brainstorm options for getting a Thai work visa - thaiworkvisa thailand thailandenglishteaching

Post 328778 by bookman117 deleted for the following reason: Sorry, but you've changed this midstream from being about one thing to being about another, with some pretty offensive stereotyping and sexism, which is not okay here -- taz

Dating a guy who tells me he suffered abuse: how to move forward? - abusechildhoodlovesex

Post 328752 by Willow251 deleted for the following reason: Discuss with your therapist -- taz

Looking For Speakers for Upcoming Buckminster Fuller Event

Post 328737 by goalyeehah deleted for the following reason: It's not clear what the question here is -- contact us to rewrite -- Eyebrows McGee

Why is masculinity so fragile? - fragility gender

Post 328685 by Crookshanks_Meow deleted for the following reason: Sorry, I don't think this is going to work. If you want to try this one again, please be a bit more concrete and maybe tell us a bit more, I'm afraid you'll have to be specific to make this a workable question. -- goodnewsfortheinsane

Software worth paying for? Black Friday Edition - paid money

Post 328601 by Ahmed_Nabil deleted for the following reason: Sorry, it's not allowed to post the same question again for "continuation." -- LobsterMitten

Ladies, what are your best reads? - books inspiration culture

Post 328441 by sophieJu deleted for the following reason: Basically any question that opens with "I'll go first!" is chatfilter, sorry. -- restless_nomad

What are all options for remedying these misogynst death threats? - LosAngeles indierock toxicmasculinity

Post 328377 by kensington314 deleted for the following reason: Heya, I appreciate you're trying to provide context for a worrying situation, but I reckon there's a way to get at the key bits you want advice on with a rewrite that doesn't involve painting a super detailed picture of your GF in the process and that'd be a better way to go. Maybe give this an edited-down do-over. -- cortex

What factors lead people to become sexually dominant or submissive? - BDSM kink psychology

Post 328281 by Delia deleted for the following reason: Heya, if this is really just "what does everyone think about these statements of mine", it's going to be chatfilter and angry chatfilter/debatefilter at that. There isn't a good way for it to work on AskMe. Contact us if you'd like to reframe. -- LobsterMitten

How to approach further intimacy in a new dating relationship? - sex love vulnerability

Post 328272 by Willow251 deleted for the following reason: Once again, AskMe isn't for play-by-play relationship stuff. Please don't continue to ask ongoing "what did they mean by X" / "how can I communicate X" at every step. A therapist can give you the support you want and help you build these communication skills for yourself. Also, this question is also edging into revealing private info about a third party without their consent, which isn't a good direction. -- taz

The written word, delivered to my door - printmedia magazines

Post 328068 by anonymous deleted for the following reason: POsters request -- LobsterMitten

Is renting your dog out a thing now? Plus dog sharing questions... - dogshare mercenary

Post 328059 by doornoise deleted for the following reason: Heya, sorry for the delayed delete here, it seems like this is just some person's ad which maybe is a bit not-great for us to be directing scrutiny onto; if the question is whether dog-share is a thing we can maybe just get answers for that. -- LobsterMitten

Is My Chance to Watch Jeopardy live in Jeopardy? - tickets livetvtaping jeopardytickets

Post 328008 by The Gooch deleted for the following reason: Poster's request -- restless_nomad

Help me be compassionate - Baby loss bereavement

Post 327919 by EatMyHat deleted for the following reason: Sorry, but this is less a request for education than an argument for your point of view, posted in a really offensive way, and will not go well at all. -- taz

Can an eastern european with 20000 euros settle in Canada? - movetocanada salaries homeownership

Post 327887 by ide deleted for the following reason: Spammer; banned -- taz

Browsers Universally Borked on Laptop - Can't Figure Out What's Next - firefox chrome html5

Post 327882 by WCityMike deleted for the following reason: poster's request -- cortex

Did my friend get pregnant to trap a guy? Also should I get a post nup? - family husband nuptial

Post 327786 by direct1 deleted for the following reason: There's not really any way folks here could answer the main question here; it's really not at all workable for Ask. -- cortex

Bulimia and Anorexia - Illness

Post 327673 by Kilovolt deleted for the following reason: This is not a good way to frame a question on this topic. -- LobsterMitten

Why do men suck at flirting? - dating

Post 327565 by Sterros deleted for the following reason: Heya, if this really is mostly just a "thoughts?" thing and not looking to try and work out a solution to a specific problem, it's pretty far into chatfilter territory. -- cortex

Should I change my username? - metafilter

Post 327389 by fatfrank deleted for the following reason: Hi there, for questions related to Metafilter itself, please post at Metatalk. Thanks! -- taz

Like Duolingo but with travel phrases? - French language apps

Post 327360 by rednikki deleted for the following reason: Poster's request -- taz

Christmas arts n' crafts - present crazy ambitious

Post 327381 by shapes that haunt the dusk deleted for the following reason: poster's request -- Eyebrows McGee

The Rise of Populism

Post 327349 by TruthfulCalling deleted for the following reason: This is not how the site works -- restless_nomad

What do you think of Dale Carnegie training?

Post 327210 by metamonday deleted for the following reason: Sorry, this is chatfilter. Also, please check that you're familiar with the rules about multiple accounts; abusing the multiple account rules is potentially bannable. -- LobsterMitten

Avoiding a Homeless Foop - mustmove sanluisobispo disabled

Post 327202 by oneswellfoop deleted for the following reason: Heya, I'm sorry you're in this situation! But "if you can't offer direct assistance" suggests this is posted as a request for direct assistance, which isn't workable. Get in touch if you'd like to edit to emphasize what kind of informational help you want. -- LobsterMitten

People are good, right? - Violence

Post 327201 by pH Indicating Socks deleted for the following reason: Drop us a line and we can try to get this somewhere workable. -- restless_nomad

Reckon my date is ghosting but we share a friend group, how to deal? - relationships friendsawkward

Post 327196 by Willow251 deleted for the following reason: Poster's request -- restless_nomad

I don't want to live, but suicide is out of the question. What can I do? - death

Post 327135 by anonymousy deleted for the following reason: Sorry, this question as framed isn't going to work for AskMe. Contact us if you want to discuss. -- LobsterMitten

A Week in Maine

Post 326987 by freshwater deleted for the following reason: Double -- taz

Someone's rejection of me as a friend destroyed me. What should I do? - loneliness anxiety relationships

Post 326907 by Wildernessy deleted for the following reason: Sorry, but Ask Metafilter isn't able to help with direct counseling. A more concrete / answerable question about how to find a therapist or appropriate qualified professional to help given your circumstances would be a more useful way forward. Please Contact us if you have questions. -- taz

Are human beings fundamentally evil? - depression religion

Post 326899 by Sotha Sil deleted for the following reason: This is chat-filter; there's not really a concrete question to answer. It might be possible to rewrite to work better for Ask; contact us. -- Eyebrows McGee

What is this lawsuit about?

Post 326763 by fantasticness deleted for the following reason: Sorry for the delayed delete; after consideration, this ends up being just a little closer to doxxing/drawing negative publicity onto random third parties than is cool for AskMe. -- LobsterMitten

Calling on any knowledge of Latin American cities - travel digitalnomad latinamerica

Post 326271 by TheOptimizer deleted for the following reason: Hey, you've asked this twice before - it's not likely you're going to get more/different answers a third time. That's not really how AskMe works. -- restless_nomad

when your possible mystery mental illness is: all of them - mentalillness depression

Post 326186 by coffeeand deleted for the following reason: This is not a question a bunch of randoms on the internet could answer, nor should try to. I'm sorry you're having a rough time, but this is really a question for a licensed professional. -- restless_nomad

How do I coordinate diversity? - work workculture representation

Post 325967 by Anticipation Of A New Lover's Arrival, The deleted for the following reason: Poster's request -- goodnewsfortheinsane

Bubblegum from around the world! - chewinggum favors help

Post 325941 by sammyabdu deleted for the following reason: Hey there, sorry, but asking for favors is against guidelines for Ask Metafilter. -- taz

Did you ally with emotionally abusive parent against the other parent? - abuse parents children

Post 325854 by Jenny'sCricket deleted for the following reason: Sorry, but this is more discussion fodder than "help solve a problem" (more info) -- taz

God said to dump you. - frienddumping religion

Post 325801 by fingersandtoes deleted for the following reason: I am sorry this happened to you but there isn't a question in here. -- jessamyn

Online Custom Writing Services

Post 325791 by anonymous deleted for the following reason: Spaaaaaaam -- restless_nomad

What can cause trouble in shallow water? - swimming

Post 325697 by rockyraccoon deleted for the following reason: Poster's request -- taz

No closure..why aren't I over this yet? - break up move

Post 325527 by blokefromipanema deleted for the following reason: I'm sorry but I can't help but feel we've deleted this question before. -- goodnewsfortheinsane

Living is horrifying for me now. How do I live?

Post 325481 by Wildernessy deleted for the following reason: Hey, I'm sorry you're having a rough time, but you have asked essentially this question several times and we're past AskMe being useful on this issue. Check out the ThereIsHelp page for resources that are better-suited to this kind of issue. -- restless_nomad

Northern(ish) California hiking options during current fires/smoke

Post 325336 by twoplussix deleted for the following reason: Double -- restless_nomad

Police being called on Black people - racism

Post 325305 by Keith Talent deleted for the following reason: Heya, this is too broad and “here’s some guesses, now you” for an Ask on such a charged topic. -- cortex

Moving in with an ex - got a feeling he is just using me for money - relationship love

Post 325264 by Salicornia deleted for the following reason: I'm sorry you're in such a difficult spot, but this isn't a question, and this isn't how AskMe is meant to be used. -- LobsterMitten

Worm ID - va hammerhead

Post 325034 by one4themoment deleted for the following reason: poster's request -- cortex

Would this be a frivolous use of GoFundMe?

Post 325031 by BostonTerrier deleted for the following reason: Sorry, I'm sure not your intent but this is uncomfortably close to just posting the request here. -- LobsterMitten

Being detached from work - jobs workstress workroutines

Post 324979 by paduasoy deleted for the following reason: double-post glitch -- LobsterMitten

The turmoil of abandonment after emotionally abusive relationship - breakup divorce verbal

Post 324856 by denika deleted for the following reason: Sorry, but questions that talk about suicide are against guidelines. Please contact us if you would like to discuss, thanks. -- taz

This question will probably not change your life. - humanexperience subjective life-changing

Post 324835 by Spathe Cadet deleted for the following reason: With the specific edict to not talk about whatever the things are, and no "why do you want to know" this is chatfilter. -- jessamyn

Chance Games Vs Skill Games

Post 324782 by Vaibhav.seo deleted for the following reason: Chatfilter -- goodnewsfortheinsane

How do you salt your hard-boiled egg? - hardboiledeggs saltygoodness egghead

Post 324755 by Pig Tail Orchestra deleted for the following reason: Hey sorry, we are trying to be a *little* more flexible about potentially chatty questions, but this is super-duper chatfilter-y -- taz

Has anybody ever seen this conspiracy tract? - Conspiracytheory mystery

Post 324750 by gucci mane deleted for the following reason: Sorry, but the linked images have specific identifying information for a third party, which is not okay for Ask Metafilter -- taz

Desperately seeking career coaching - careercoach job

Post 324721 by foxy_hedgehog deleted for the following reason: poster's request -- cortex

How to take care of (everyday) things - maintenance cleaning

Post 324738 by typify deleted for the following reason: Heya, this needs to a bit more specific than just apparently literally anything. -- cortex

Adult self-harmer seeking help - selfharm

Post 324693 by anonymous deleted for the following reason: poster request -- LobsterMitten

Why is my mother so against my tattoo? - Tattoos

Post 324656 by Braxis deleted for the following reason: There doesn't seem to be a question here that strangers on the internet can answer, sorry. -- restless_nomad

I am coming for you, FUN_2_USA. - Amazon

Post 324666 by orange swan deleted for the following reason: hey sorry, but this is a bit too much like a review site / googlebomb post rather than a straightforward "how do I deal with this issue" question -- taz

Summertime sexual desire is driving me insane

Post 324605 by ionnin deleted for the following reason: It's not clear what your question is here. -- Eyebrows McGee

It's not my tooth, pinky swear! - lake arkansas wedington

Post 324329 by bendy deleted for the following reason: This question does not appear to have been asked in good faith. -- Eyebrows McGee

Individual hummingbirds have taken control of my feeders

Post 324280 by BadgerDoctor deleted for the following reason: Heya, fine to ask about feeder management strategies but maybe find an approach for this that reads like something other than "convince me not to kill these birds" because that's kinda how this is landing and that's just gonna start a fight needlessly. -- cortex

"Creating" your own meaning? - Philosophy psychology

Post 324135 by CharlieCitrine deleted for the following reason: Sorry, AskMetafilter isn't really a place for kicking off philosophical discussions - see our chatfilter guideline. -- LobsterMitten

Differences between British and US workplaces - customs culture

Post 324137 by 3dd deleted for the following reason: This could work if it were a little more specific about why/what you're looking for- get in touch in the next hour or so if you want to edit -- LobsterMitten

I can has job? (At age 58) - employment ageism sizeism

Post 324017 by intrepid_simpleton deleted for the following reason: Sorry, this doesn't have an actual question in it -- if you'd like to add one, drop us a line at the contact form in the next hour or so. -- LobsterMitten

Best way to block off a doorway - soundproofing doors drywall

Post 323876 by acidic deleted for the following reason: poster's request -- Eyebrows McGee

How do I love someone who hates themselves? - selfhate selfloathing distrust

Post 323784 by anonymous deleted for the following reason: Poster's request -- restless_nomad

Very depressed - got a lot on my plate - depression happiness polarities

Post 323721 by watercarrier deleted for the following reason: Hey there, I'm sorry things are looking so rough right now. This is too broad for AskMe as framed, but drop us a line at the contact form in the next hour or so and we can talk about editing. -- LobsterMitten

I really do care. And so does my company. And maybe so do you (?). - donation charitabledonation howtohelp

Post 323679 by alleycat01 deleted for the following reason: Heya, no worries about the intent here and I think from chatting about it earlier I may not have framed out clearly enough what I think would vs. wouldn't work for this as an Ask; let's talk some more over email about it. -- cortex

What are your favorite Canadian brand? - Canada Day exposure

Post 323523 by Wiserwood deleted for the following reason: This is spam for your own company, so your account is now banned. -- LobsterMitten

Racist and Xenophobic...or not? - racism101 economics abortion

Post 323398 by eglenner deleted for the following reason: Sorry, but this kind of discussion/debate is not what Ask Metafilter is for. More info here. -- taz

A challenge to define an eccentric character's life in a novella... - lists traits

Post 323374 by zenpop deleted for the following reason: Sorry, this is too broad to work well here. -- LobsterMitten

Depression and assholes - joysuckers

Post 323271 by generic230 deleted for the following reason: Heya, I'm sorry you're in this situation, and glad to hear you're in a good place with your own depression. I think this will strike some readers in a bad way right now, if they're struggling themselves, and that's not your fault but also not something we want to take a chance on. -- LobsterMitten

Is someone stalking me? - stalker

Post 323107 by blackzinfandel deleted for the following reason: poster's request -- cortex

Why is Metafilter shit at dealing with racism? - hopeless pointless

Post 323106 by human ecologist deleted for the following reason: Sorry, this is a question about Metafilter, so it belongs in the contact form or on Metatalk. -- LobsterMitten

How do you handle it when you don't like someone without good reason? - people peoplewhoneedpeople

Post 323041 by Smearcase deleted for the following reason: Heya, if this is really just a just-wondering, here's-my-example thing, that's a little on the chatfiltery side for Ask. -- cortex

Australians: what crime did your long lost ancestor commit?

Post 322792 by BadgerDoctor deleted for the following reason: Let's not -- goodnewsfortheinsane

Help me to choose a miter saw - woodworking

Post 322760 by DonBranson deleted for the following reason: Spammer; banned -- taz

Anger after the break-up of a toxic relationship - breakup

Post 322722 by koolaidnovel deleted for the following reason: Sorry, this isn't a question and AskMe isn't for open-ended processing. -- LobsterMitten

Physical safety measure you took once you had kids? - children babies

Post 322673 by KatNips deleted for the following reason: Heya, the core question here is fine but tacking on a preemptive complaint about hypocrisy etc. is just gonna kinda doom the question for no good reason. Drop us a line at the contact form if you want to talk about editing some of that out and bringing this back up, or just plan to post a rewrite in a day or two. -- cortex

Racism *is* North America's Mental Health Program - mixed-race whiteprivilege mulatto

Post 322586 by human ecologist deleted for the following reason: Heya, I'm sorry you're having to deal with bullshit racism in your family and asking about resources or strategies for that is fine, but there's a ton of not-question stuff in here that doesn't fit Ask as it's intended to be used. Go ahead and regroup on this and trim it down to the core question stuff and give it another go tomorrow maybe. -- cortex

Why am I shut out of my gmail?? - lockedoutgmail

Post 322491 by velveeta underground deleted for the following reason: poster's request -- LobsterMitten

Can the jury-duty court ask that?

Post 322106 by pipti deleted for the following reason: Poster's request -- goodnewsfortheinsane

Body cams for accused parents?

Post 322118 by Transl3y deleted for the following reason: Heya, this is kinda loose and chatty "so I have an idea..." framing for Ask; probably better to do some research first and then if there's some more specific questions you have based on that to bring them over here vs. just brainstorming. -- cortex

Wood for Chiminea in Toronto - firewood

Post 322078 by katesharks deleted for the following reason: poster's request -- cortex

Why Do People Get Stuck? - solvingproblems aversetochange lettinggo

Post 322001 by VioletU deleted for the following reason: Sorry, questions about finding stuff on Mefi or AskMe should be posted in Metatalk -- go ahead and post this over there instead. -- LobsterMitten

Can I Delete Or Edit Old Ask Meta Posts? - metafilter

Post 321918 by kbbbo deleted for the following reason: Sorry, questions about Metafilter itself should be posted at Metatalk, but the quick answer is that only mods can delete or edit a post, so you will need to contact the moderators to discuss. Drop us a line, and we can work it out. -- taz

The Problematic Words of Rich White Dudes - transhumanism donaldtrump jeffbezos

Post 321824 by 0bvious deleted for the following reason: Not that rich white dudes haven't said a hell of a lot of problematic shit recently and otherwise, but it's not really clear why this is an Ask. If you've got something more specific you're looking to do besides just sort of round this stuff up, that needs to be clearer in the framing of the question. -- cortex

Are my doubts in this relationship valid? Will I ever be happy? - relationships

Post 321693 by anon1129 deleted for the following reason: This sort of “here is everything: help!” post does not work here, sorry. -- restless_nomad

Bug ID - wtf scaryaf

Post 321643 by davidmsc deleted for the following reason: Hey, looks like your link didn't work -- if you can send me a corrected link in the next couple hours I can fix that for you and undelete, or you can post again tomorrow with the proper link if you prefer. -- Eyebrows McGee

Should I stay or should I go? - Dating partners sex

Post 321504 by belliceNH deleted for the following reason: Repeated non-specific questions about the same relationship are not workable here, sorry. -- restless_nomad

Did my ex girlfriend break up with me in a fair manner?

Post 321455 by DPJ deleted for the following reason: There isn't a whole lot here that's really an answerable Ask MeFi question; if you have questions about how to e.g. process and move on from a breakup, that'd be a workable thing to regroup and ask about, but just a list of grievances and "was this fair" isn't really something folks can add more to or help you with beyond speculating about the context they don't have for it all. -- cortex

Where to submit an engineering challenge, for biggest returns? - pinewoodderby notecard notecards

Post 321467 by Quarter Pincher deleted for the following reason: The way this is written, you're almost certainly going to get zero answers to your actual question, and your own reply cements that. Drop us a line at the contact form if you want to talk about ways to fix it. -- restless_nomad

Questions about Montclair NJ? - Newjersey

Post 321448 by anonymous deleted for the following reason: already posted -- taz

What about government funding for political ad campaigns? - politics politicalSpending

Post 321366 by Mr. Papagiorgio deleted for the following reason: Hey, this kind of hypothetical is chatfilter by definition, sorry. -- restless_nomad

Why does investing in a resource justify ownership? - philosophy property sociology

Post 321307 by mrmanvir deleted for the following reason: Sorry for the late delete; it's not clear what answer people could give that makes this anything but chatfilter, basically asking people to spin just-so stories about this not-obvious premise. -- LobsterMitten

Recording & saving calls.

Post 321260 by LOOKING deleted for the following reason: Poster's request -- taz

How do the apartments in project developments work? - writing

Post 321283 by fantasticness deleted for the following reason: This is not going to go the way you want. Come discuss with us at the contact form. -- LobsterMitten

How do I let go of feeling that a 1.5yr relationship was meaningless? - break up regret

Post 320954 by Willow251 deleted for the following reason: Heya, this is continuing to use Ask as a processing space for something repeatedly, something we've already talked to you about needing to not continue doing. -- cortex

What Causes Weak Belief? Only those on spiritual path firmly reply - trust faith soul

Post 320847 by watercarrier deleted for the following reason: This needs to be far more concrete in order to work as a question here. -- goodnewsfortheinsane

Am I crazy? - Depression lonely alone

Post 320824 by Deal deleted for the following reason: Hey there, I'm so sorry you're going through all this, but this kind of "here's everything" approach doesn't work on AskMetafilter, which is meant for smaller focused concrete questions. This really sounds like something where in-person and longer-term help is what's needed. The There Is Help page has a listing of crisis hotlines (including for texting or online chat) that may be able to help too. -- LobsterMitten

Would extending fertility also extend youth in Human beings?

Post 320752 by fantasticness deleted for the following reason: Heya, there's an interesting and probably somewhat answerable question lurking in here about what we know about the science of fertility and senescence, but as framed this is kinda all over the place and chatty to the point where it's not really a good fit for Ask. -- cortex

Do you think I'm special? - relationship dating

Post 320697 by LakeDream deleted for the following reason: Heya, this is kind of conflating a potential focused personal question ("this is my specific experience, help me understand it") with a much broader generalized chatfilter sort of thing ("what do guys like"), and the while the former is a workable fit for Ask it needs to be reworked to be more just that without the broad, anything-goes framing. Maybe give this another go tomorrow with a more concrete, less poll-the-audience rewrite. -- cortex

Filing a complaint against a business in Indiana. - refund

Post 320694 by xm deleted for the following reason: Heya, “Chinese vs. non-Chinese” framing here is pretty not cool and is gonna doom any shot this might otherwise have at garnering useful answers about small biz refund type stuff. -- cortex

Who else explores the world using Facebook Live? - livestreams anthropology ethnography

Post 320633 by stonepharisee deleted for the following reason: This needs to be more focused and less of a poll/survey-type question, please see here and here for more. -- goodnewsfortheinsane

Help me... lampshade.

Post 320515 by Armed Only With Hubris deleted for the following reason: necessary first link is broken; please repost later when it's fixed, thanks! -- taz

I am depressed and have recently lost my job. How do I deal with this?

Post 320511 by hexenkunst deleted for the following reason: Heya, I'm very sorry you're dealing with this right now, and it may be possible to ask about some of this on Ask MetaFilter but it'll need some editing. If you are feeling suicidal or even just in crisis please reach out to someone trained to help; there is a list of resources on this There Is Help page. -- cortex

Should I buy the bone china bowl?

Post 320479 by beckyhyl deleted for the following reason: This does not look like a good-faith question. -- restless_nomad

Should I Stick with the Devil I Know?

Post 320478 by queen_mob deleted for the following reason: poster's request -- cortex

How do you go about changing your whole life?

Post 320314 by 3491again deleted for the following reason: Hey there, this is super broad chatfilter. If you'd like to edit it to be more about solving a specific problem, please contact us, and we can fix it up. -- taz

Resources for women suffering domestic abuse: Amsterdam NL

Post 320283 by scruss deleted for the following reason: Poster’s request -- restless_nomad

I can't "unsee" my ugliness and it's killing who I am

Post 320225 by Wildernessy deleted for the following reason: Hey, this is way too long to be workable - drop us a line at the contact form and we can talk about trimming. -- restless_nomad

"What were you thinking??'

Post 320192 by flyingfork deleted for the following reason: Sorry, this is chatfilter. Contact us about how to rewrite it to work for AskMe. -- Eyebrows McGee

[test question, please ignore]

Post 320108 by goodnewsfortheinsane deleted for the following reason: It works. -- goodnewsfortheinsane

Recent post on the Blue featuring a home-rolled newspaper archive?

Post 319861 by mwhybark deleted for the following reason: No biggie but questions about "what was this Mefi post" belong on Metatalk instead -- go ahead and post this over there. -- LobsterMitten

Will corporate Delta will grant me flight extension/what are workarounds

Post 319800 by Kombucha3452 deleted for the following reason: This seems like something where you just need to ask Delta? -- LobsterMitten

Showering twice a day

Post 319759 by red_alert_3 deleted for the following reason: This is not a question and you need to stop asking vague questions about showers -- restless_nomad

Wollen Sie ins Museum gehen?

Post 319627 by wintersonata9 deleted for the following reason: Heya, sorry, this is a nice thought, but there isn't really a good place on Mefi to give away tickets. -- LobsterMitten

When do you know if a relationship isnt worth saving *URGENT*

Post 319639 by Deal deleted for the following reason: Sorry, AskMetafilter is not for open-ended processing/ongoing updates on relationships.... this is basically the same thing as your question last week. -- LobsterMitten

What do you think has the biggest influence on public opinion?

Post 319584 by rageagainsttherobots deleted for the following reason: Sorry, this is more of a discussion starter (chatfilter) than really works on AskMetafilter. -- LobsterMitten

Visit from someone who has feelings for the SO

Post 319570 by miaow deleted for the following reason: OP says it turned out to be a misunderstanding -- taz

Is the MetaFilter code available for public use?

Post 319504 by Clementines4ever deleted for the following reason: Heya, this is fine to ask but you need to do so on MetaTalk or at the contact form; AskMe isn’t for sure-related questions. -- cortex

He left me (blindsided). I am heartbroken, how can I move through this?

Post 319365 by Willow251 deleted for the following reason: Hey, this sounds really hard, but there isn't a question here, and AskMe is not for this kind of ongoing relationship processing. -- restless_nomad

How do I have MS project users let me know when they've made updates?

Post 319298 by shoesietart deleted for the following reason: doubled -- taz

Can cats commit sexual assault? #MeowToo?

Post 319280 by mikeand1 deleted for the following reason: Heya, I think it's totally fine to ask the site whether and how to deal with some cat interaction problems, but winky framing about #MeowToo etc. is a hard pass. Rewrite and try again. -- cortex

Is it okay that Tea Forte sells defective cups? - product policy regulation

Post 319052 by daisyace deleted for the following reason: sorry, but as written, this looks like you are using Ask Me to punish the company / give negative publicity, and that's not what the site is for. Contact us if you'd like to edit. -- taz

Barefoot in dorm shower stalls? - higher education hygiene

Post 318888 by red_alert_3 deleted for the following reason: Hey, I'm not sure if you missed it, but we deleted this when you posted it yesterday - we don't do re-asks of questions like this. -- restless_nomad

Re-ask : Bare foot in dorm room showers - Hygiene higher education

Post 318828 by red_alert_3 deleted for the following reason: Sorry, we don't do re-asks. -- LobsterMitten

Please tell me if you identify with this statement. - social relationships deviceaddiction

Post 318794 by falcon42 deleted for the following reason: Heya, sorry, this is pretty much chatfilter. -- LobsterMitten

Celebrity-Lite likes me, but I have a new BF. Checking in feelings? - dating relationships celebrities

Post 318724 by sam3cat deleted for the following reason: Poster's request -- taz

How to get Scottish or Irish Citizenship without ancestory or marriage? - scotland

Post 318721 by RearWindow deleted for the following reason: This seems the same as your question from August; you'll need to explain why the answers there didn't work or what you tried from them. -- Eyebrows McGee

Tell me your serious-relationship breakup stories.

Post 318654 by MiraK deleted for the following reason: Heya, there's not really any kind of "problem I'm trying to solve" here as this is framed. -- cortex

How would you interpret the phrase "lesbian subaru porn?"

Post 318662 by sciatrix deleted for the following reason: Totally get that this was really not the intention, but the non-specific chatfilter-y framing of the post, plus expanding it to "now consider it this way sort of opens this up to a) disparaging characterizations, and b) graphic descriptions of porn, both of which are a problem here -- taz

Poop Milkshake Duck

Post 318596 by womb of things to be and tomb of things that were deleted for the following reason: I agree with folks saying that asking for positive recommendations might be better. It seems this way leads to more debate than answers, sorry. -- goodnewsfortheinsane

Shell-Of-Myself -> At What Point Does One Become A Lost Cause? - relationships breakups obsession

Post 318591 by edinburghgirl deleted for the following reason: Drop us a line at the contact form and we can see about getting this into a workable question. -- restless_nomad

How to promote a 44 year old rapper - marketing music virality

Post 318481 by jasondigitized deleted for the following reason: Sorry, but this is substantially the same question as previously -- taz

Is it normal to be still grieving this relationship?

Post 318480 by blokefromipanema deleted for the following reason: Sorry, but as we've said many times before, you cannot keep asking the same question -- taz

Felt guilty for breakup, now feeling guilty for not leaving sooner?

Post 318385 by Socolime deleted for the following reason: This is a little too broad to be answered in any meaningful way here - AskMe is not a good fit for processing exercises. -- restless_nomad

Title IX Hearing resources for complainants?

Post 318315 by anonymous deleted for the following reason: posters request -- LobsterMitten

The dream job and boyfriend dilema again

Post 318158 by Nikolai2017 deleted for the following reason: Sorry, asking the same question over and over is not something we can accommodate here. -- restless_nomad

Cat euthanasia decision and process

Post 318107 by FencingGal deleted for the following reason: poster's request -- cortex

Sex and power and solutions - relationships metoo ansari

Post 318048 by laptolain deleted for the following reason: Heya, as written this is going to be basically chatfilter, since it's basically an invitation to a wide-ranging discussion of a range of hot-button topics along with your own suggestions/theories etc. Get in touch in the next hour or so if you'd like to talk about reframing this to work better on AskMe. -- LobsterMitten

Transracial Sensitivity - rachel dolezal cathy

Post 318061 by Christ, what an asshole deleted for the following reason: "Help me understand this troll" is a form of trolling, sorry. -- LobsterMitten

Filemaker Pro Database error when performing "Find" with checkboxes - FilemakerPro

Post 318034 by TWinbrook8 deleted for the following reason: poster's request -- taz

What Employers Can Ask When Checking Your Background?

Post 317771 by movistar deleted for the following reason: Hey, it still counts as spamming and still gets you banned even if you mess up the part where you try to link to your site. -- cortex

The Face of the Earth - Divorce Dating

Post 317687 by AlexandriaParis deleted for the following reason: Heya, I'm sorry this situation is frustrating, but coming back to the well again and again with "okay but now *this*" updates on substantially the same issue on Ask isn't workable. -- cortex

Looking for post on the blue - Corvid theblue lostpost

Post 317631 by tedious deleted for the following reason: oops, sorry, but questions about Mefi need to be posted at Metatalk; you can just go ahead and post this as-is over there. -- taz

Sending money to Russia? - wire

Post 317625 by cakelite deleted for the following reason: Hey, sorry, but as framed this tends to look more like an effort to promote a fundraiser rather than a direct question just asking how to transfer money to another country. If you'd like us to edit, please contact mods, or you can rewrite and repost later! -- taz

Budgets in NYC/Chicago/LA/Zurich/Hongkong - living money income

Post 317605 by mathiu deleted for the following reason: Heya, this is way too broad to really work as an Ask MetaFilter question. Probably a thing to do some basic research yourself first and then come back with a more narrow, specific set of questions based on what you've sussed out. -- cortex

Hotel in St. Petersburg

Post 317470 by falsedmitri deleted for the following reason: Poster's request -- restless_nomad